Whelp, today is my 37th born day, friends! This last trip around the Sun has had its share of crappy setbacks and challenges; but even so, each year I somehow survive and come out stronger on the other end. Thank you, Universe, for reminding me that I'm powerful, purposeful and pretty darn cool (if I do say so myself). Here's 37 random things (in no particular order) that I've learned through experience over the last 37 years:
- If someone makes an unpleasant face and then says, "smell this" – don't do it.
- Don't go to bed hungry. Your stomach doesn't give a shit what time it is.
- If you're already having an unlucky day, don't go get your hair cut.
- People are going to let you down. You are people. Learn to forgive yourself.
- Always trust your gut. That Buddha belly is wise AF.
- Some things, like pizza and cereal, are acceptable at any time of day.
- You're only responsible for your own journey.
- Definitely eat before you get drunk. Also, eat something while you're drunk.
- Get comfortable with your own company. You'll spend a lot of time in the midst of it.
- Give that compliment to someone when you feel compelled – be the light! I've remembered kind words years after they've been spoken.
- If you have a chance to be kind or cruel, choose kindness. You'll regret it less later.
- I don't care what your smile looks like, or what you think it looks like, I want to see that shit.
- Every choice you make has a ripple effect. Try, as much as possible, to choose with care.
- Live your truth. There's more pain in pretending than honoring your authenticity.
- When you learn something you think is interesting, share it with someone else. Knowledge is power.
- Perform random acts of kindness. The benefit is synergistic.
- Learn to read the vibe of the room. This will save you from numerous awkward situations.
- You don't have to keep toxic people in your life, no matter what their relationship is to you. Refer to Number 7.
- Pack extra underwear. What the hell – socks, too.
- Spend time with children and old folks. They both have life gems to share.
- Find the balance between spontaneity and planning. That's the sweet spot.
- It's okay to not have all the answers right now, but never think you have all the answers.
- Sometimes there's a big difference between what you think you want and what you actually need. Don't worry, the Universe will clear it up for you.
- Have a back-up plan. It makes life a lot easier.
- Practice active listening. When you're just waiting to talk, you miss the real message.
- Water is the nectar of the gods.
- Be the bigger person. You know what I mean by that.
- Resist the urge to exaggerate. Most of the time it’s not necessary.
- Splurge on experiences, not possessions.
- Listen to your body. It's telling you what it needs, and it knows what to do.
- Acknowledge and cultivate the strengths of others. It's a natural confidence booster for all parties.
- No one is lovable all the time, so hang on tightly to the people who have loved you when you're a hot, hot mess.
- Anyone can benefit from therapy. Probably even you.
- You can't make anyone change, but you can change the way you respond to them.
- Release it. Whatever "it" is, let it go. Write about it. Scream about it. Run it out. Sleep it off. But don't hold onto it.
- Everyone is creative in some way, shape or form. You just gotta find your medium.
- Stop apologizing for being sensitive and emotional. Feel your feelings. Feel your heart. Love yourself.
A candid photo of me in my out-of-breath element on Field Day. I knew at an early age that a) I wasn't meant for long-distance running and b) I couldn't see shit outside without sunglasses.
Even in 5th grade, low-maintenance hairstyles were my go-to. Also, peep the groovy specs. I was way ahead of my time.
Good ol' Father & Daughter Dance with my pops. One of us was super excited.
Nerd Alert! As the sticker indicates, I was all "yasssss!" when my National Geographic magazines came in. That ensemble I'm rockin' is a fun side note, huh?
Yellow always has been a great color on me. Though I've come to accept any hat that accentuates my already giant melon doesn't really work for me.